Lois Bushong, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Author of Being Everywhere & Nowhere: Insights Into Counseling the Globally Mobile, shares her story of how being a Third Culture Kid and Expatriate while growing up impacted her sense of belonging, her struggle with depression, and finding her place in life and the world. Lois also shares how she uses her healing experience with individuals and families who are moving through similar challenges as they live and work in countries and cultures different from their passport country. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Marcia Naomi Berger, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted, shares about how the wound of her parent’s divorce affected her pattern of attachment in finding a love relationship towards marriage. Naomi also shares about her expertise on helping couples to connect more deeply with one another through weekly marriage meetings that she teaches about through her book, workshops, and private practice. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
One of my favorite things that Naomi said on the show concerning marriage mentors was: “I think the role models are really, really important.”
Dr. Stan Tatkin, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Wired For Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, recalls how the kindness of his therapist and feeling loved helped to shape him through his own self-actualization and help mold him as a psychotherapist. Stan also shares about the approach he developed called the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) which assists couples in co-regulating at a nervous system level to create positive experiences of excitement, positive experiences of relaxation, and as a team, the couple can shorten and alleviate negative experiences or distress. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Here are a few of my favorite insights that Stan shared on the show:
Concerning His Growth as a Person and Psychotherapist:“I’ve come to see that attention and presence is very connected to developing feelings of love… Maybe that’s a function of age. Maybe it’s a function of gratitude as well. Maybe it’s a function of the kind of work I do… it’s all of the above.”
Concerning the Benefits of Psychotherapy:“I think there’s no better schooling. Because it is really like going to school, we should call it education instead of therapy. It’s going to relationship school with another person who can help heal the injuries, heal the experiences, and create new experiences for us that we carry forward into other relationships. For those people who think that therapy is for the mentally ill, that is no longer the case. Therapy is for Everybody!”
Concerning Healing and Growth:“Our medicine has been and will always be people. Relationship.”
Dr. Lynn Johnson, psychotherapist and author of Enjoy Life! Healing with Happiness, shares how picking up a book 23 years ago impacted his life and changed his direction as a veteran psychotherapist. Lynn also shares how cultivating happiness through the Positive Psychology concept of learned optimism is helping his clients in their own healing journeys. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Some of my favorite insights from Lynn during the show were:
“Life is painful… suffering is optional.”
“The optimist doesn’t think of the bad events as being horrible, they think of how this will be a challenge to cope with… what can I learn from this? How can I grow from this?”
“Self-efficacy… There’s something about not taking to heart bad events.”
“The Positive Psychologist tends to say: The character flaws just sort of disappear if your focused on happiness. The character flaws you sort of lose interest in them when you’re focused on your happiness.”
“That’s what makes me happy about being a shrink, I’m constantly learning.”
I uploaded the first show today to set all of the feeds to the directories such as iTunes and Stitcher Radio. The first show is actually a teaser to talk about what the show is all about. But the very first full episode should go live next week! Very exciting. And it’s a great first show with a very special guest who really opens up about her own journey and how that has impacted her work with her clients. Listen to the new show teaser below in the audio player. The wait is almost over… Take care.
Shrink on the Couch is live… er, the website is live. I’m in the process of interviewing the first guests of the new podcast show. The show will soon be live on iTunes, Stitcher Radio, and other platforms. I will keep you up-to-date when the first shows go live. If you would like to know more about Shrink on the Couch click here.