Dr. Stan Tatkin, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Wired For Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, recalls how the kindness of his therapist and feeling loved helped to shape him through his own self-actualization and help mold him as a psychotherapist. Stan also shares about the approach he developed called the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) which assists couples in co-regulating at a nervous system level to create positive experiences of excitement, positive experiences of relaxation, and as a team, the couple can shorten and alleviate negative experiences or distress. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Here are a few of my favorite insights that Stan shared on the show:
Concerning His Growth as a Person and Psychotherapist: “I’ve come to see that attention and presence is very connected to developing feelings of love… Maybe that’s a function of age. Maybe it’s a function of gratitude as well. Maybe it’s a function of the kind of work I do… it’s all of the above.”
Concerning the Benefits of Psychotherapy: “I think there’s no better schooling. Because it is really like going to school, we should call it education instead of therapy. It’s going to relationship school with another person who can help heal the injuries, heal the experiences, and create new experiences for us that we carry forward into other relationships. For those people who think that therapy is for the mentally ill, that is no longer the case. Therapy is for Everybody!”
Concerning Healing and Growth: “Our medicine has been and will always be people. Relationship.”
Pick up Stan’s book Wired For Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build A Secure Relationship
Pick up Stan’s book Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy co-authored with Marion Solomon
Pick Up Stan’s audiobook Your Brain on Love : The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships @ Amazon or you can get it for FREE @ FREESHRINKBOOK.COM