Marcia Naomi Berger, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted, shares about how the wound of her parent’s divorce affected her pattern of attachment in finding a love relationship towards marriage. Naomi also shares about her expertise on helping couples to connect more deeply with one another through weekly marriage meetings that she teaches about through her book, workshops, and private practice. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
One of my favorite things that Naomi said on the show concerning marriage mentors was: “I think the role models are really, really important.”
Dr. Stan Tatkin, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Wired For Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, recalls how the kindness of his therapist and feeling loved helped to shape him through his own self-actualization and help mold him as a psychotherapist. Stan also shares about the approach he developed called the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) which assists couples in co-regulating at a nervous system level to create positive experiences of excitement, positive experiences of relaxation, and as a team, the couple can shorten and alleviate negative experiences or distress. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Here are a few of my favorite insights that Stan shared on the show:
Concerning His Growth as a Person and Psychotherapist:“I’ve come to see that attention and presence is very connected to developing feelings of love… Maybe that’s a function of age. Maybe it’s a function of gratitude as well. Maybe it’s a function of the kind of work I do… it’s all of the above.”
Concerning the Benefits of Psychotherapy:“I think there’s no better schooling. Because it is really like going to school, we should call it education instead of therapy. It’s going to relationship school with another person who can help heal the injuries, heal the experiences, and create new experiences for us that we carry forward into other relationships. For those people who think that therapy is for the mentally ill, that is no longer the case. Therapy is for Everybody!”
Concerning Healing and Growth:“Our medicine has been and will always be people. Relationship.”
Dr. Barbara Steffens, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and co-author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, shares about her own healing journey through Partner Betrayal Trauma as a result of her husband’s sexual betrayal. Barbara also shares about how her work has created a paradigm shift in the treatment approach for those who have been sexually betrayed by a partner. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
One of my favorite things that Barbara shared on the show was: “This is about trauma. This isn’t about codependency…”
Dr. Lynn Johnson, psychotherapist and author of Enjoy Life! Healing with Happiness, shares how picking up a book 23 years ago impacted his life and changed his direction as a veteran psychotherapist. Lynn also shares how cultivating happiness through the Positive Psychology concept of learned optimism is helping his clients in their own healing journeys. Push the play button above to listen to the show or use the links below to listen on iTunes or Stitcher Radio.
Some of my favorite insights from Lynn during the show were:
“Life is painful… suffering is optional.”
“The optimist doesn’t think of the bad events as being horrible, they think of how this will be a challenge to cope with… what can I learn from this? How can I grow from this?”
“Self-efficacy… There’s something about not taking to heart bad events.”
“The Positive Psychologist tends to say: The character flaws just sort of disappear if your focused on happiness. The character flaws you sort of lose interest in them when you’re focused on your happiness.”
“That’s what makes me happy about being a shrink, I’m constantly learning.”